One thing that most of us would agree on is being stuck in a routine that is monotonous and boring quickly becomes depressing. It’s easy to convince ourselves that in order to break out of our routine and find happiness in a regular day; it’s going to require some effort. We keep hearing the voice in our head whispering to us, “This is going to require some work,” and “I’m not really feeling it right now.”
Of course this is the little voice in our head (the ego-mind) that’s got a real problem with change because it’s convinced (and trying to convince the real us) that any change is a threat.
We’ve all faced that naysayer inside our heads. What’s worked for me is lulling my internal roommate into silence or at least tacit submission is to avoid going big.
In fact slow and simple works best for me. I’ve found that taking small steps consistently over time creates big changes and the best part is that I get no resistance from my inner child; in fact it believes it was its idea. Being the ego, it loves to take credit.
To help you along this path of ease and simplicity are some wonderful ways to find happiness in a regular day from Henrik at “Positivity Blog:”
1. One minute of appreciation.
Take a minute, sit down and just reflect on what you appreciate and love about your partner. Or a friend or family member. This will fill you with gratitude and redirect your focus to the positive side of things.
2. Express your appreciation.
Tell the partner, family member or friend what you came up with. It will brighten his or her day. And as his or her face lights up with a big smile you’ll feel happier too because emotions are contagious.
3. Take 5 minutes to see how you can help someone out.
Offer some practical help, some good advice, look something up for him or her, be encouraging and supportive or just lend a listening ear.
4. Slow down for 3 minutes.
Walk and move slower for just these few minutes. Let your thoughts slow down. Use the 3 minutes to enjoy what is happening all around you. Truly take it in with all your senses.
There is much simple wonder we miss each day because we are so preoccupied with our thoughts and plans for the future.
After those 3 minutes are up, continue at the slower pace if you like.
5. Be the smile you want to see in your world.
Smile more towards the people you meet and you’ll get more smiles back. You’ll feel better. They will too. Continue to read…
Each of the practices recommended are simple and require little in the way of effort but practiced consistently over time will create big changes in the set point on your happiness meter.
For example, smiling its more than a gesture, it is a connecting the mind and the body. Smiling create physiological response, part of what psychologist call the “facial feedback hypothesis,” that we can affect our won mood through our facial expressions.
Again the good news is because the practices are so non-threating to our fragile little egos (don’t tell them I said that) resistance will be minimal.
It won’t be until we look back, and from the long view see how we’ve broken out of our routine to find happiness in a regular day.
If you’ve got some simple tips that promote happiness and general feelings of wellbeing (and won’t tick-off the inner roommate) please share them and help save someone from fate of a deadening routine.