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Happiness is a Day at the Beach

Your Happy Place for Good News-Happiness is a Day at the BeachUsing a smartphone app called “Mappiness,” 22,000 people participated in a study and the results were that spending time near water, especially “big” water like the ocean, creates feelings of wellbeing and happiness.

In other words going to the beach makes us happy.

Now before you go “Duh,” it turns out that there’s more to it than “a day at the beach.”

We’ve known that people are happier when outdoors in a natural environment apposed than a urban setting.

This particular study checked on the participant’s emotional state as they moved throughout their day.  The team from the London School of Economics and Political Science discovered that “Being outdoors, near the sea, on a warm, sunny weekend afternoon is the perfect spot for most. In fact, participants were found to be substantially happier outdoors in all natural environments than they were in urban environments.”

According to lead researcher, Dr. George MacKerron, “There are at least three reasons why natural environments are positively related to health, wellbeing and happiness. These environments reduce stress; they have less noise and pollution; and people are more likely to engage in physical exercise and recreation and to interact with others there.”  

There has also been speculation than we have an affinity for the sea because of our ancestral genetic history; we remember where we came from.

Bottom line, you want to be happier; go to the beach.

 

The Key to Happiness in a Relationship is not its Length but its Depth

Your Happy Place for Good News-The Key to Happiness in a Relationship is not its Length but its DepthSonja Lyubomirsky and other positive psychologists inform us that happiness is divided into three parts.

The largest part is your Happiness set point the second piece of the pie is Intentional activity and the smallest sliver (10%) is “circumstance.”

The ten percent includes “things,” the stuff in our lives, but it also includes accomplishments, in fact it includes anything the believe we can “get” that will make us happy.

Surely though, that doesn’t include our relationships, and especially our long-term relationships? Lyubomirsky said that even in her own case, “Getting married was one of the best things that I have ever done, and I am absolutely convinced that I am happier now than before.”

However, her evidence says otherwise, a study cited by Lyubomirsky, “of 25,000 residents of East and West Germany… {who} were surveyed every year for fifteen years. 1,761 individuals of those surveyed got married and stayed married, but evidence indicated that marriage only had a temporary effect on happiness; people generally adapt to their circumstances.”

Lauren Suval of Psychcentral.com, noting  Lyubomirsky’s study asked the question, “So are we truly happier in a long-term relationship?”

Along with this questioned the perception that those who are in long-term relationships are happier, noting that there are “those who simply express a desire to stay single because that’s what works best for them?”

She continued, “They wouldn’t exactly feel happiest in committed relationships, right? In addition, you could also argue that an underlying sense of happiness depends on your own outlook — happiness that is perhaps guided by more of an internal feeling.”

As it turns out, it may not necessarily be the length of the relationship but the intimacy of the relationship.

While a long-term intimate, nurturing relationship will support a happier life than those who are lonely it doesn’t mean that single individuals can’t experience a happy life.

The key to happiness and relationship is in the quality of the relationship more than the marital status.

In Sonja Lyubomirsky’s book, “The How of Happinessshe says, studies have found that “relative to married people, singles are closer to their friends and have more frequent contact with them.” It’s this intimate contact that is the determining factor to our happiness.

People who have a deep connections to others, whether they are married or not, are the people that will enjoy a happy life, and feel the greatest sense of wellbeing.

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