Peter Jones is the author of a bestselling book whose title appears to be something of a contradiction, “How To Do Everything And Be Happy.” How can you do, or even try and do, everything and still be happy. It sound more like a recipe for frustration, not happiness, right?
According to Peter there are three primary reasons that a person is unhappy and dissatisfied with their life.
First of all, there is no balance in their “work/life balance.”
The second reason is a lack of control or, at least, feeling that they have no real control over their lives.
The third primary reason that people are unhappy is that it seems as if the universe is conspiring to crush their optimistic mood by conjuring up situations and personal conflicts especially for them.
While it isn’t practical in the ‘real world’ to live as if every day was your last (you would likely run out of resources all too quickly,) you can, according to Peter, take hold of your life and make every day count; you can take back some control.
Mr. Jones has a happiness practice.
He suggest that you allow yourself, at least one day a month, the opportunity to live like a four year old.
You should get up and start your day with no plans at all and wait and see how your day unfolds. Clarifying what he means, Jones said that you shouldn’t consider it a day off, but view it as day without an agenda. Skipping all the preparation and mental gymnastics involved in scheduling allow you to “be in the moment;” and that takes a whole lot less energy.
This is living like a four year old, not fretting about the past and worrying about the future.
Mr. Jones also suggests that you make a “live-life-now” list. You create the list by answering the question, “What would I like to experience before I die?” Your list should feature things that you could do right now if were free and you had the money and time. As answers come up you should journal them.
What makes this different from a “bucket list” is your wish list should only be made up of places and activities that are achievable in the next year or two, no more.
Another big difference between the “bucket list” and your “live-life-now” list is that, as your list grows it answers the question, “What do I want to do with my life.”
If you’re dissatisfied with your life, this book may be for you.
If you want to do something – anything – to increase the amount of happiness you feel, this book is probably for you.
And if you know how to use a pencil, if you own a diary, if you can make a list, if you’re moderately organized, then this book is definitely for you.